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CPTSD: Five Emotional Reactions That Push Friends Away

Through no fault of their own, people with Childhood PTSD sometimes have overly strong emotional reactions: Something hurts your feelings, and you overreact. If you were abused or neglected as a kid, this might sound familiar. In fact, your emotional response can get so overblown that you live in fear that you’ll create problems if …

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TRAUMA BONDING Explained

There’s one kind of romantic relationship that I wouldn’t wish on anyone — and that’s the kind that’s been made intense by a trauma bond. This another name for dynamic also known as “intermittent reinforcement, where one person gives intense affection and approval to the other person, and then alternates it with neglect, disapproval, abandonment …

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Why People Still Don’t TRUST You (Yet)

There is something unfair that happens when you’ve survived traumatic times. Even when the abuse wasn’t in any way your fault, people stop trusting you.  You get abused and they don’t trust you. And you might think this is just because they were horrible people who don’t understand — and sometimes they don’t… But when …

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New Age Myths That Keep You Single

Unfortunately it can be very easy to take advantage of people who were traumatized as kids, and make them THINK that some uncomfortable or painful situation will lead to being loved. I’m talking about certain New Age or personal development ideas out there that are totally common and widely believed, but that are… just not …

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CPTSD: Do You Isolate Because It’s Hard to Hold Boundaries?

Have you ever been at home, and you hear the doorbell, and you’re pretty sure it’s somebody selling something or giving out literature, and instead of answering the door, you HIDE? Like on the floor? Whispering so they won’t “know” you’re there? This is a form of isolating because we don’t trust ourselves to have boundaries. …

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Do People TRIGGER You? CPTSD and Why We Isolate

In last week’s post, I talked about how COMMON it is for people with CPTSD and Childhood PTSD to experience being isolated, and being lonely.  Loneliness is part of life, at least a little bit, for everyone. But for a lot of people who experienced early trauma, it’s like a curse we carry, that touches everything …

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CPTSD and ISOLATION: First in a Series

In this article and the next several articles (and the corresponding videos)  I’ll be talking about one of the biggest, most common adult symptoms of childhood trauma, and that’s ISOLATION. In the three years I’ve been writing about Complex PTSD and Childhood PTSD, I’ve received thousands of YouTube/Facebook comments and messages from people who tell …

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CPTSD: How to Keep Your Brain and Emotions Regulated in a Relationship

Just like other people, most of us who grew up with childhood trauma want to be, or are in, a loving partnership or marriage. My Dating and Relationships course talks about many of the obstacles we face when meet and form relationships with others. But ONE of the videos in that course is about BEING …

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CPTSD: How to Have Better FRIENDSHIPS

Forming close friendships is not something that comes naturally to a lot of us who struggle a bit around attachment, connection and trusting others because of exposure to early trauma. Luckily, this is something we can learn, even if we didn’t learn this at home. I have some tips to show you how to have …

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