When you have Childhood PTSD, there’s nothing worse than being in some crucial conversation, or some big moment, and some little thing triggers you. And even though you know it’s not worth getting upset about, you get upset anyway. You can feel it spreading through your body — the feeling of adrenaline and discombobulation, feeling numb in …
I’ve noticed SO many people in my life, and in the Crappy Childhood Fairy member community, are feeling low-energy and a loss of focus. For some of us, it’s COVID or post-COVID symptoms (I’m just recovering from COVID myself). For others, it’s a lingering dullness associated with the extra isolation of the pandemic, or the …
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For people living with the effects of childhood trauma, “avoidance” can be a strategy to control CPTSD triggers by keeping oneself alone and isolated. “Covert avoidance” is my term for a secret kind of avoidance — living life as if you are engaged with it, but hiding from it. Watch the Video If that’s you, …
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Childhood PTSD is, in its essence, an injury to our ability to connect with other people. You may have sensed the injury, but you likely considered it a personal failing. You saw other people easily connecting, and you thought your difficulties were because you were doing something wrong. Watch the video. We now know that …
There’s one kind of romantic relationship that I wouldn’t wish on anyone — and that’s the kind that’s been made intense by a trauma bond. This another name for dynamic also known as “intermittent reinforcement, where one person gives intense affection and approval to the other person, and then alternates it with neglect, disapproval, abandonment …
There are a lot of people out there walking around with Complex PTSD. They might know they have it. They might even be trying to do something about it. But mostly, they’re just suffering with it, afraid they’re going to become one of those people stuck in their trauma forever, never being fully happy, loved, …
Your childhood trauma tried to destroy you when you were little and you survived. Right now is the time when you get to decide whether you will take the path of real healing and become your full and real self — or whether you’ll take the road that looks easier, and keep playing small. It …
Do you know what the biggest obstacle to healing Complex PTSD is? It’s not your parents. It’s not the health care system. It’s not politics or money or social media. The reason you are getting stuck is most probably because you keep sabotaging yourself. You block your own healing with self-defeating behaviors. We all do …
There is something unfair that happens when you’ve survived traumatic times. Even when the abuse wasn’t in any way your fault, people stop trusting you. You get abused and they don’t trust you. And you might think this is just because they were horrible people who don’t understand — and sometimes they don’t… But when …
Unfortunately it can be very easy to take advantage of people who were traumatized as kids, and make them THINK that some uncomfortable or painful situation will lead to being loved. I’m talking about certain New Age or personal development ideas out there that are totally common and widely believed, but that are… just not …
