Does Growing Up With Trauma in the House Make You Overweight?

Last year was the best year of my life. For one thing, I finally lost the extra weight I’d been carrying — about 40 pounds.

I was (and am) thrilled to be back in a right-sized body. I’m happy about how I look when I try on clothes, and about how I feel when I get out of bed in the morning. I even got a super-congratulations letter from my doctor when she saw my recent blood work.

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How to Have a Great Day (11 Tips For People with Childhood PTSD)

A lot of people who write about adverse childhood experiences (ACEs) focus on the damage — the impact on mental health, the medical problems, the permanent changes to DNA, the behavioral challenges… But in my experience? There’s a whole lot of wiggle room in this wonderful life, driven not by our childhood experiences, but by how we approach today. I’m not just being philosophical here. These are my very practical, time Continue reading “How to Have a Great Day (11 Tips For People with Childhood PTSD)”

Divorced Parents Who Fight: How to Break The Cycle (a New Course)

I remember perfectly the warm wave of hope and relief I felt when my parents told me they were getting a divorce. I was seven.

My dad kneeled down in the hallway with me as he was leaving, his suitcase on the floor next to him, and promised it wasn’t my fault. I pretended I needed to hear this, but I knew perfectly well it was the two of them who had caused all the trouble. They had Continue reading “Divorced Parents Who Fight: How to Break The Cycle (a New Course)”

The Never-Ending Wreckage of Growing Up Poor

Today you’d probably lump me in with the middle class, but I carry some residue of having grown up poor. I work with people who work hard to help the poor, but have not themselves ever been poor. There are things they don’t understand.

People who grew up with money tend to think that poverty is something they can fix with things like education, “empowerment” or initiatives that almost always have the words “community,” “youth,” “program,” and “center” in them.

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Did Childhood PTSD Leave You With “The Underdog Effect?” Here’s How To Undo It.

This week, my video talks about the seeming cloud that can hang over folks who who went through a lot of adverse childhood experiences (ACEs).  It’s a cloud made of negative outside stigma and our injured self-esteem. It limits us through tiny little changes in our habits, our judgment and our thinking. The good news is, there’s a Continue reading “Did Childhood PTSD Leave You With “The Underdog Effect?” Here’s How To Undo It.”

Childhood PTSD Hero: Dr. Nadine Burke Harris on ACEs

Why can’t everyone just adopt healthy behaviors and quit making the same mistakes over and over and over again? In this beloved TED Talk, Dr. Nadine Burke Harris breaks  it down for us: Adverse childhood experiences (ACEs) turn out to be directly correlated with just about every bad health outcome. She is a pioneer, shining a light on understanding what’s really going on with us, and how it can be prevented and treated. Thank you Dr. Harris!

“High-Stress Childhood” Linked With Troubling Lack of Brain Activity Around RISK Perception (Which Explains a LOT).

Well, it’s what we suspected all along…

A new study from the University of Wisconsin-Madison shows that stress from childhood is linked with a diminished awareness of looming risk or punishment, and higher than normal emotional reactions to the consequences. This confirms a lot of stuff we’ve been Continue reading ““High-Stress Childhood” Linked With Troubling Lack of Brain Activity Around RISK Perception (Which Explains a LOT).”

Childhood PTSD and Your Brain: A Simple Technique to Get Calm, Clear and Focused

You know that hamster wheel that spins in your mind, filling you with thoughts and worries and blocking you from being your wonderful self? And you know how emotions and upsets makes it really hard to focus sometimes?  If you had a crappy childhood, you may be feeling the effects of brain changes from neglect, stress and abuse.

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How to Make a Beautiful Apology

If you grew up with a lot of childhood crap, you probably know a thing or two about broken down relationships! And sometimes, sometimes, it’s we who did the breaking. Or at least played a part in it. If you have any apologies you’ve been meaning to give, but weren’t sure how, this is the video for you. Would love to hear your feedback in the comments section.

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