Do you know what the biggest obstacle to healing Complex PTSD is? It’s not your parents. It’s not the health care system. It’s not politics or money or social media. The reason you are getting stuck is most probably because you keep sabotaging yourself. You block your own healing with self-defeating behaviors. We all do …
Unfortunately it can be very easy to take advantage of people who were traumatized as kids, and make them THINK that some uncomfortable or painful situation will lead to being loved. I’m talking about certain New Age or personal development ideas out there that are totally common and widely believed, but that are… just not …
If you were hurt by trauma when you were a kid, you’re already painfully aware of how the old hurts, and fears, and triggers come back to haunt you, right when you’re trying to take a big step up on your career. And it’s not that you’re not smart enough or capable enough. It’s the …
CPTSD and Your Work Life: Set Yourself Free to Succeed Read More »
If you had trauma when you were little, I’m going to guess that you’ve made some really bad decisions in your life… strange self-sabotaging decisions about relationships, jobs, or the way you express yourself when you’re angry. And you know you’re doing something that’s not right because the people around you are giving you that …
Trauma-Driven Decisions: How to Stop Before They Happen Read More »
So many people who went through trauma when they were kids are still waiting to find real help for the trauma-related problems that continue to affect their lives. This is a tragedy. Are you one of those people? I was. I didn’t know any other way to DO something about the intense struggles I was …
Seeking Therapy for Complex PTSD? Here’s What to Look For. Read More »
If you’re ever going to heal from childhood trauma, to become happy, connected, and doing work you love, you’ll need to get out of brain fog. It may not seem like it, but brain fog is one of the worst symptoms of complex trauma, even though it’s hardly ever discussed. If you have it, you know just how miserable it is. …
If you look around at all the friends and partners you’ve let into your life, and discover that there’s a high proportion of trainwrecks and jerks, guess what? Your red flag detector is broken. It’s broken! It’s supposed to be warning you when bad people try to walk into your life (this goes for bosses …
Your Red-Flag Detector is BROKEN: Here’s How to Fix It Read More »
One of the biggest reasons why people who grew up with trauma struggle to maintain good relationships, is because of our own behaviors that push people away. I teach a lot about triggers — the way people and experiences can dysregulate us and throw us off — neurologically, physically, emotionally. Triggers are key, but what’s …
Some people don’t want you to heal from your childhood trauma. You’ve probably noticed this. While there are all kinds of great people out there working for solutions and supporting people who want recover from the effects of abuse and neglect, there are a lot, right in our midst, who want you — who think …
Lately, a lot of people who grew up with childhood trauma are going “no contact” with their families and loved ones. I hear people talking about it with relief and sometimes a sense of accomplishment. For many people, the abuse was egregious and may be ongoing; in these cases, walking away for good may be …
CPTSD and Visiting Family: Ten Tips for Self Care Read More »
