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Why Can’t I Make People Stop TRIGGERING Me?

I’m going to say something very ‘tough love’ here: As a person with Childhood PTSD, You can ask others to understand you and your sensitivities, and you can even ask them to help you avoid getting triggered. But you know what? They are not obliged to do any of it. That doesn’t mean they don’t …

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Managing CPTSD When the World is On Fire

When the world around you becomes unstable, there are two basic energies you can adopt.  For those who went through trauma as a child, it’s hard to avoid getting stuck in one of them. Self protection. As much as we need safety, inside and out — we also need growth. If you have Childhood PTSD …

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Sick and Stressed from CPTSD? Power Up Your SELF CARE (Resilience Series)

I’ve been talking about resilience in recent posts — the obstacles that hold back recovery, and the strengths we need to keep healing. Last week the topic was fear. In this post (and the video that goes with it)  I want to go up a layer to the next strength, and that’s self-care. I used to …

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Childhood PTSD and ANGER: Is it Ever a GOOD Thing?

For me, one of the biggest burdens of my past was in my relationship to anger. When I was a kid, the adults in my life went WAY out of control with their anger. I grew up watching my dad rage at my mom, and my mom berate my dad. The two of them would …

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How to Get Your Hope Back After The Hardships of Childhood PTSD

Do you ever get STUCK in thoughts of the trauma you endured in your childhood — and of all the hardships that hindered you as a result? It’s almost like being hypnotized… the dark thoughts cast a spell that makes it almost impossible to imagine feeling better. But there is a way to break the …

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To Heal Childhood Abuse and Neglect: Talk Less. Write More.

For a lot of people with Childhood PTSD, talking about traumatic memories can make symptoms worse — worse than if we were to do nothing at all. Yet talking about the past is the default mode of therapy for virtually everyone who is depressed, anxious or troubled about the past. It’s true that talking can …

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Childhood PTSD and Getting Triggered: How Can You Feel Safe?

When CPTSD is active and our brains and emotions are dysregulated, we can be easily triggered by things that upset us — things people say and do (or don’t do), things that are shocking or hurtful, and just everyday stressors. Getting triggered can cost us hours and days of disruption, so the search for a …

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The Never-Ending Wreckage of Growing Up Poor

Today you’d probably lump me in with the middle class, but I carry some residue of having grown up poor. I work with people who work hard to help the poor, but have not themselves ever been poor. There are things they don’t understand. People who grew up with money tend to think that poverty is …

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How To Stay (Mostly) Sane When Family Visits Make You Crazy

Yay! The holidays are here and everywhere, people with some level of Childhood PTSD are facing the prospect of returning home. Let’s say you’ve escaped a childhood that contained abuse, neglect, and exposure to parental violence and addiction, and let’s say now you’re living happy and free as a grown-up. You get an e-mail. It’s …

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Feeling Naked

When I was six years old, some moms took a bunch of us kids to the Santa Cruz Beach and Boardwalk, which was (in my pre-Disneyland years) my actual, best place in the whole world. Somewhere in the half-mile of noisy carnival rides and smells there was, in those days, a Fun House that had …

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