fbpx

Loneliness

Why Can’t I Make People Stop TRIGGERING Me?

I’m going to say something very ‘tough love’ here: As a person with Childhood PTSD, You can ask others to understand you and your sensitivities, and you can even ask them to help you avoid getting triggered. But you know what? They are not obliged to do any of it. That doesn’t mean they don’t …

Why Can’t I Make People Stop TRIGGERING Me? Read More »

CPTSD: The Number One Reason Your Past is Making You Miserable

I’ve learned so much from the community that’s gathered around my YouTube channel. I’ve noticed that comments are usually one of two kinds, and one of them is from people who still feel stuck in their early trauma. At it’s heart, Childhood PTSD is an injury to the ability to connect. From this injury, come …

CPTSD: The Number One Reason Your Past is Making You Miserable Read More »

The Dark Side of People-Pleasing

If you’re feeling like the people YOU like, don’t like YOU — and you don’t know why — the first thing you want to look at is whether you are people-pleasing.  People-pleasing is the act of changing yourself to make people like you — trying to match their interests and values, flattering them, and hiding …

The Dark Side of People-Pleasing Read More »

CPTSD: Can People SENSE It In You?

It’s awful to say, but have you ever noticed that when your Childhood PTSD symptoms are “up” again, it’s as if you have a dark cloud around you that people can feel? It feels a bit like an invisible force that pushes people away. It’s one more weird thing that can happen when abuse and …

CPTSD: Can People SENSE It In You? Read More »

The Emptiness You Feel Is Trying to Tell You Something

I read a short story last week that was about emptiness and love. That funny thing that happens sometimes, happened, and three different people wrote to me within about 24 hours about… emptiness and love. They were feeling — and I think a lot of us are feeling it — a harsh, empty, loveless feeling …

The Emptiness You Feel Is Trying to Tell You Something Read More »

How to Mend a Broken Relationship

If you grew up with abuse and neglect in your childhood, chances are good that you’ve suffered more than your share of broken relationships. Sometimes the break is caused by the other person, but today I want to talk about broken relationships where we played a role in hurting our connection with someone we care …

How to Mend a Broken Relationship Read More »

Dreading Valentines Day? Here’s Something to Heal That.

This Valentines Day, Prepare for REAL Love: Heal the Effects of Childhood PTSD On Your Romantic Life. A history of trauma in childhood can take a terrible toll on relationships. It’s SO common for us to choose unavailable/inappropriate people, get close too quickly, and stay in bad situations because the thought of abandonment is unbearable. Sometimes …

Dreading Valentines Day? Here’s Something to Heal That. Read More »

A History of Childhood Trauma Makes Us Feel Different. Are We?

You hear this a lot among people who experienced childhood trauma. They have trouble shaking the feeling that they’re somehow different, as if everyone else seems to know something — how to act, what to say, how to be connected — and that somehow we never got the memo.  Do you ever feel like that? …

A History of Childhood Trauma Makes Us Feel Different. Are We? Read More »

CPTSD: How to Heal The Feeling of Emptiness

Hi everyone, this week I’ve released a video and article about emptiness, and the surprising way we can come to feel fulfilled. As you’ll see in the video, especially near the end, I feel very strongly about this. Everyone feels a sense of emptiness sometimes, but people with Childhood PTSD are especially prone to it. …

CPTSD: How to Heal The Feeling of Emptiness Read More »

Is Bitterness Blocking Your Ability to Heal from Childhood PTSD?

You probably know a few people who are stuck in bitterness. In big ways and small, you may be stuck there too.  Bitterness is the seventh of the eight obstacles to healing from Childhood PTSD that I’m covering in my resilience series. I want to talk about what bitterness looks like,  how to know if …

Is Bitterness Blocking Your Ability to Heal from Childhood PTSD? Read More »

Follow

Get the latest posts delivered to your mailbox: