Everyone tells you when you’re having a hard time, especially when you had a lot of trauma as a kid, that you should “go talk to someone.” “You should “find a good therapist.” But for me, talk therapy didn’t help, and I want to tell you why. At the beginning of 2020, I posted a …
One of the messages that’s been drilled into us by popular culture is that “you have to love yourself before you can love someone else.” This is something people tell you when you get your heart broken and you feel like you must be… no good! And for a lot of years, every time I …
Most people are familiar with PTSD flashbacks — the kind we associate with combat veterans who are haunted by a war memory. With Chronic PTSD (CPTSD), we may have “emotional flashbacks” — mood states from childhood that are disconnected from present day events, though we don’t always know it. If you’d like to learn …
Childhood PTSD has often left us unconsciously anxious, and one sign is that we tend to grasp at things we do want, and cling despite the fact that these people, situations or places make us unhappy. In this video I talk about testing reality by letting go and allowing things to come to you. You …
CPTSD and CLINGING: Try To Let Things COME TO YOU. Read More »
Everyone’s brain and emotions get dysregulated sometimes, and almost everyone is able to eventually re-regulate. But if you grew up with abuse, neglect or other trauma during childhood, you may get more dysregulated more often, and have a harder time bouncing back, leaving you with a lack of focus and coordination, overblown (or deadened) emotions, …
This is How It FEELS When Your Brain is Dysregulated from CPTSD Read More »
If conventional assumptions about (and treatments for) depression were meaningful, we’d be seeing less of it — not more of it — these days. The incidence of depression is increased in people with Childhood PTSD, but why? In this video I challenge some conventional wisdom and offer a new approach that for many of us, …
PTSD, Complex PTSD, Childhood PTSD — why does it seem like SO many people have it these days? Are people actually experiencing more trauma in this generation, or is something else going on? In this video I give you ten guesses why so many people feel they have it, and how our culture can change …
Why Does It Suddenly Seem Like EVERYONE Has PTSD? Read More »
The Daily Practice is a pair of techniques, practiced together twice a day, that helped me quickly recover from the debilitating effects of chronic emotional/brain dysregulation. In this video I tell the history of how I developed it and how to use it. Below is a link to a free download and videos so you …
One of the harmful effects of growing up with abuse and neglect, is that we get ALL too good at fitting ourselves to unacceptable people and situations. Long after normal people would have left the scene, our minds tell us it’s our fault, it’s a unique situation, we should stay and make it work. In …
Did Childhood PTSD Teach You To FIT Yourself to CRAP? Read More »
Official diagnosis with Complex PTSD is a “hypothetical and experimental diagnosis” that for now, is lumped in with standard PTSD. But what’s the difference? And (as many of you have asked) why do I keep referring to the effects of abuse and neglect in childhood as “Childhood PTSD?” Is that real? In this I explain …
CPTSD, PTSD, Childhood PTSD and ACEs: What’s the Difference? Read More »
