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How to Mend a Broken Relationship

If you grew up with abuse and neglect in your childhood, chances are good that you’ve suffered more than your share of broken relationships. Sometimes the break is caused by the other person, but today I want to talk about broken relationships where we played a role in hurting our connection with someone we care …

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Childhood PTSD and ANGER: Is it Ever a GOOD Thing?

For me, one of the biggest burdens of my past was in my relationship to anger. When I was a kid, the adults in my life went WAY out of control with their anger. I grew up watching my dad rage at my mom, and my mom berate my dad. The two of them would …

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Childhood PTSD and The Guilty Feeling: When Is It Real?

Abuse and neglect in childhood can leave a lifelong residue of guilt for things that were never our fault. This same fuzzy thinking can ALSO make us numb to the awareness that we HAVE actually hurt someone. This can make it painful to decide whether to stay connected — or cut off contact — with …

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Childhood PTSD and Getting Triggered: How Can You Feel Safe?

When CPTSD is active and our brains and emotions are dysregulated, we can be easily triggered by things that upset us — things people say and do (or don’t do), things that are shocking or hurtful, and just everyday stressors. Getting triggered can cost us hours and days of disruption, so the search for a …

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The Unexpected Healing Power of NOT TALKING About Trauma

Many years ago, I found a dead body. It was a man I had been dating for a few months, who had turned out to have even more problems than I knew when I met him. He showed up at my house high on something one night and I made him leave. I told him …

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Did Childhood PTSD Leave You With “The Underdog Effect?” Here’s How To Undo It.

  This week, my video talks about the seeming cloud that can hang over folks who who went through a lot of adverse childhood experiences (ACEs).  It’s a cloud made of negative outside stigma and our injured self-esteem. It limits us through tiny little changes in our habits, our judgment and our thinking. The good news …

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How to Make a Beautiful Apology

If you grew up with a lot of childhood crap, you probably know a thing or two about broken down relationships! And sometimes, sometimes, it’s we who did the breaking. Or at least played a part in it. If you have any apologies you’ve been meaning to give, but weren’t sure how, this is the …

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Has PTSD From Childhood Affected Your Ability to Connect? 10 Tips For Better Friendships

Ready to start healing your relationship life? Register for my online course Dating and Relationships for People with Childhood PTSD. Has Childhood PTSD affected your relationships? Take the Quiz.  For a deeper dive into all the symptoms of Childhood PTSD — how they happen, and what to do, take my online course Healing Childhood PTSD …

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