Suddenly, This Video About Treatments for Complex PTSD Started Going Viral

Back in the summer, I posted this video on on my YouTube channel, as just one example of the 32 videos included in my online course Healing Childhood PTSD. I confess I used to think of YouTube as a place to host the videos embedded in my blog. But then this month a funny thing happened — the video got a life of it’s own among Youtubers who had never even heard of the blog —  and viewership shot up exponentially to several thousand a day. Subscriptions soared, and (I love this about YouTubers) the comments came pouring in. Soon traffic TO the blog went crazy, resulting in a big surge of blog follows, course registrations, signups for early access to my new course on dating/relationships for people with CPTSD, (which is out now!) and hundreds and hundreds of downloads of my CPTSD quiz and re-regulation technique instructions. So if you missed this post last year, and you want to see the video that got so turned SO many people in to Fairy fans, here you go!

By |2019-02-02T17:11:33+00:00January 29th, 2019|3 Comments

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I'm the author of the Crappy Childhood Fairy blog, which offers advice based on my own experience and reading. I live with my husband and kids, and run a small business in the San Francisco Bay Area.


  1. Lara Wallace January 29, 2019 at 9:29 pm - Reply

    Hi I just watched your video about the neurological problem with childhood trauma. My son has PTSD and wants to end his life. Trauma occured after his oldest sister died trying to save his life when he fell off a cliff into a dangerous icy foam and raging river. He has night terrors and he tried the CBT didn’t work. Right now we are trying EMDR but you mentioned that it doesn’t work as well for kids. What do you do for kids to cure this! My son is now 12 the accident happened when he was 6 he started having problems when he was 10 and I only see it getting worse. What do we do?

    • Anna Runkle January 29, 2019 at 9:47 pm - Reply

      Lara, what a hard story. I’m so sorry for your family. I can tell you that my re-regulation techniques are great for kids. Both my sons learned when they were small to write fears and resentments. We taught them meditation but that was a bit onerous for them. One of the kids writes daily. If you haven’t seen the techniques yet, there are here: https://crappychildhoodfairy.com/2018/12/27/how-i-healed-from-childhood-ptsd-free-techniques-that-help-re-regulate-your-brain-and-emotions.

      EMDR is less effective for Complex PTSD — the kind that comes from chronic, ongoing stress. Your son appears to have regular PTSD, from an acute event. EMDR is very effective for that. Please keep going with it! It may indeed help!

      I’m not an “expert” but since you ask, I will offer a gut feeling based on the small amount of info you shared, and my own experience with kids. Our kids look to us for how to interpret terrible or confusing things, and 12 is still young enough that he is very connected to you “energetically,” so to speak. I imagine this tragedy was the worst thing that ever happened in your life too. How are you doing with it? To the best of your ability, I hope you are able to show him that you are calm inside, and can accept what happened and that you don’t feel blame or guilt about it. You equanimity would at least be a stabilizing force. My two cents. Gosh, I wish your family every blessing and healing. Please give your son a big hug for me. His surivival is the gift of his sister’s sacrifice. I know she would want him to cherish his life. These things take time.

  2. Jennifer February 2, 2019 at 9:37 am - Reply

    I’m so sorry to hear about this family tragedy. Death of a family member can be one of the most traumatic events that anyone could possibly face. Additionally, children are more vulnerable since their brains are not fully developed yet. It’s difficult for children to assimilate these types of events or find a way to integrate something so tragic and life altering.

    EMDR is the most effective method for integrating a single incidence trauma like what has been described so the ‘past is finally in the past’.

    However, I would also recommend neurofeedback for the purposes of dealing with the nightmare symptoms which targets another part of the brain associated with triggering. Find a neurofeedback provider who can help calm down the brain. Here’s a short description about how it works:


    I’m not trying to sell this particular service. It’s just for education purposes. You’ll need to do your own research to see what’s available in your area of the country,

    Neurofeedback can enhance the effectiveness of EMDR. Hire the best professional EMDR therapist you can find in your area. I would travel 50 to 100 miles if necessary! It’s *that* critical! The EMDR therapist should be listed at EMDRIA. You want someone who has years (ideally decades) of experience and also does continual work under supervision. Not all EMDR therapists are equal in experience and competence. An inexperienced therapist can make PTSD worse. It’s simply not true to say that EMDR is ineffective with children. It really depends on who you work with. Ideally, you want to pick someone who has experience with both children and grief.

    Check out Phil Manfield videos on YouTube.

    I have lots of personal experience with these modalities as well as an understanding of trauma neuroscience. I have successfully worked through a number of childhood traumas. As Bessel van der Kolk says, CBT is not particularly useful with trauma because we cannot use logic or reason to work through trauma. I agree. Stay clear of CBT! And stay clear of those workbooks!

    Children can be taught EFT and Tapping (see book by Laura Parnell). You can also encourage children to play drums. Anything that involves bilateral stimulation is calming to the nervous system.

    Also: check out article by Dr. Bruce Perry and others on children and grief:

    I also like Megan Devine’s work. She overcame her own personal tragedy and she wrote a book. Her is her website: https://www.refugeingrief.com/. She offers support and writing exercises.

    Although your son is young, you might find her work helpful and supportive. Sometimes the best support comes from those who have experienced similar kinds of loss. Good luck.

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